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Thursday, October 14, 2004
Scared in Toronto writes:
I have been seeing a therapist for 3 years. Also off and on for 3 years prior to the last 3 years. I am also on antidepressants[3 years]. I have been progressing and I like my therapist[most of the time!] but last week [I see him weekly] he eluded to the fact that I would be saying goodbye the end of the year. I am terrified. I feel sad ,scared and will miss him terribly. I know this is normal but I am afraid that I'll sink into another depression. We have discussed that I look at him as a father figure. I need some help in dealing with this. How do others deal with it? I have been crying alot this week. I see him today.

Dear Scared in Toronto:

It is not clear from your email the reason that your therapist has decided to terminate treatment at the end of the year, but it is obviously very painful for you to face the end of a powerful relationship. In your situation, it is very important to make the transition to another therapist. Your current professional is ethically obligated to help you do that by referring you to a competent, caring therapist. Perhaps having sessions with the new therapist while still seeing your current therapist less and less frequently will help you gradually make the transition.

A big issue for you might be your high degree of dependence on your current therapist. Talking with him about that dependence and working on depending more on yourself for your healing will help. After all, you are the one who can make you better.

I hope your struggle now leads you to being stronger and less depressed.

Dr. Rob Burkham

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"Dr. Burkham helped me change my life so I am a happier person. At the start of treatment, I believed I was unhappy because others did not give me what I needed and wanted. Dr. Burkham helped me recognize and understand my patterns of behavior and what motivated me to act the way I did. As I gained insight about my fears, insecurities and desires, I no longer gave others the power to make me unhappy. I was able to change my patterns and make conscious choices that were good for me."
- B.B., age 56.

All testimonials from clients are from former clients of Dr. Burkham. It is unethical for a psychologist to solicit testimonials from clients who are currently in treatment.